One of the best ways to increase your self-esteem is to value being more then belonging. This means that you value who you are and what is right and true for you more than you worry about being accepted by society and what other people think. This can earn you the label of a rebel and will often generate resistance from those whose self-esteem binds them to the dictates of society.

But do not take their negative input personally. If you feel criticized, or someone says something negative to you, do not take it as an attack on your self-worth. The idea is to begin transforming the way you experience your life. Realize that what someone else says or does, short of physical violence, does not affect you - only what you think about what they say or do affects you. Other people see you through their veil of old programming and you see them the same way. Neither side can be truly objective and accurately reflect the way things are.

Make it all right with yourself to let other people think they are right and not care. For a person with truly high self-esteem, being is more important than belonging.